How often do you come into a conversation and it frustrates the life out of you? Or you make decisions with another person and it isn’t what you wanted? Or the simple fact that you cannot stand the person talking to you.

Now, what if I was to tell you there was a way to overcome all of these problems? It is the missing ingredient in the boardroom. 

I want to start this with what happens in OUR boardroom, as a contrast to what happens in every business I have ever worked with. 

We have a business strategy session every Wednesday morning. And before we even begin to make decisions about the business, we start the conversation with what patterns we both have that are going to impact the decisions we make and how successful the business is. 

Our conversations go something like this: 

“I make decisions too quickly without considering all of the facts and all elements, and it can cause the business to have to pick up the pieces and change direction too quickly. I can also make the wrong...

We all say we want the higher and loftier status, positions and roles. We all say we want to take on more responsibility and pressure because with bigger roles and more responsibility comes more career satisfaction and success - right? 

And to an extent that’s correct - when we love what we do and we love the career path we have chosen for ourselves - rising up and taking on a higher role or position and taking on more responsibility brings us more opportunities, more exposure, more success and more money. 

What most people aren’t prepared for when they achieve the promotion or the new role they have been pushing hard for or saying yes to taking their career to that next level - is just how much their self-worth plummets and their unconscious sabotaging patterns take over. 

Let me explain. As you move through each stage of your career, you get really good technically and professionally at that phase. And this makes total sense right. You can’t transition to the next phase until you ...

If there is one thing I know about parenthood, it is that we kill ourselves to be the perfect parent to our children. I cannot even begin to count the number of times I have agonised over what a shit job that I am doing at parenting, and how scared I have been of how my kids are going to grow up. I am absolutely petrified of how they will ‘turn out’. And I feel like just about every other parent is too.

But there is something very profound that I have learned over my years of cultivating awareness and understanding human behaviour.

We are never going to get it right. Ever. We can try and fight all we like. We can hold ourselves accountable for every bit of dirt that we can find on ourselves not being the perfect parent.

The absolute, unequivocal truth of parenting and human behaviour is – no matter how hard we try to be perfect; we are going to give our children some level of patterning that is going to hinder them in the future. It is unavoidable.

Is it better then to keep trying ...

We say we want a good life. A life of fun, happiness, joy and fulfilment. An inspired life where we feel deeply rewarded in our careers, where we lead and are part of an inspired team, have meaningful and connected relationships and make a difference in the lives of those around us.

Unfortunately, we are in fact the opposite. We are actually addicted to the problems, the issues and the drama in our lives that cause us unhappiness and stress. 

And when I say addicted, I literally mean addicted. When we experience a stressful event in our lives - which might be a tight deadline that we need to hit, a team member performance issue that we need to deal with, a personal crisis or a make-or-break career-defining moment - our body actually releases a cascade of chemicals into our system that gives us the energy, additional cognitive ability and stamina required to help us deal with the stressful event. 

I know you’ve all been there. The heart beating faster when you’re rushing to meet a de...

There are points in your life when you will come to a crossroads, and you can either go back into safety, or you can bravely venture into the unknown.

The problem with this is, many people do not know how to venture into the unknown with a warrior spirit. Most people will habitually choose the safe road because that is the only way they know how. Except, that crossroads won’t ever fully go away (it will keep knocking on your door), and for these people that choose safety, a lot of the time a crisis will come crashing down on them and they will be forced to make a change.

So, what then does it mean to bravely venture into the unknown?

Bravely venturing into the unknown is when you do the following.

1) Something in life starts to become uncomfortable, it starts to annoy you, bug you, get on your nerves, you don’t like living that way anymore. It creeps up on you over time, and you start to recognise it and become aware that something is different =.

For example, I had a client tha...

One of the things I am fascinated about is brain science. I literally read book after book on the latest studies that are proving the link between our mind, the thoughts that we have every day and our ability to harness this power to create any outcome we want for ourselves in life. 

To explain what happens at a very simplified level - the thoughts we have in our mind release chemicals into our system that create an emotional response in our body. As our body releases hormones to continue to create the feelings in our body that match our thoughts, our brain is constantly monitoring the way our body is feeling and will then generate more thoughts that correspond to the way the body is feeling. 

More thoughts generate more feelings and more feelings generate more thoughts - this is the thinking and feeling loop. 

This thinking and feeling loop creates our state of being - our reality.

Have a go for yourself right now. Practice thinking about something that is quite powerful in your...

Unfortunately, we have been sold a lie. 

We’re told that the doorway to success swings outward. We’re told that we just need to work harder, get more clients, make more money, buy more things and we will feel truly happy in our career and in our life. 

In actual fact - the doorway to success (true success) swings inward.

The true path to living a deeply rewarding life and having an incredibly successful career - lies within.

Most people are running around blindly trying to amass more money, more clients, more toys in the hope that they will be able to quieten that voice that’s trying to tell them there’s something more to their life that they’re missing. That there’s a deeper and more profound life to be living - if only they’d stop, go inwards and listen. 

Now I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with more money, more clients or more toys or that you should quit your job or shut down your business and go and sit on a rock for a year until you find yourself! I’m suggesting...

How do you turn up each and every day and engage with the wins and engage with the hardships that come at you? 

If you’re like most - you get excited and celebrate when you have a win or when something comes off that you have been working hard towards. Most people I know celebrate with a bottle of bubbly when they buy a new house or get a promotion at work or bring on a whole bunch of new clients. 

If you do celebrate the wins and the exciting things that happen to you - good on you! You absolutely should be!

Now, please be honest when you answer this next question - how do you turn up when things aren’t going your way? How do you turn up when things are going pear-shaped and you have money or cash flow issues, a business or a team that isn’t performing like it used to, a relationship in crisis or you’re at the point of burn out because you’re taking on too much? 

Most people, unfortunately, dig their head in the sand and pretend it isn’t happening to them or move into the victim...

Did you know that we have on average between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts every single day? That’s an average of 2,500 to 3,300 every hour!!

What’s even more alarming is that recent research suggests that of this insane amount of thoughts we all have every day - 80% of them are negative..... 

80%!!!! 

How the heck are we supposed to achieve our goals, create meaningful changes in our lives and grow into the person we are inspired to be when 80% of the thoughts we are having don’t support us living the life we are trying to create??!! 

I’ll tell you how.....this is where awareness of our thoughts and observing our mind comes into play. 

Being fully aware of the thoughts we are having each and every day, moment to moment means that we are able to catch ourselves when negative or limiting thoughts and beliefs arise in our mind and move them on without them creating a lasting imprint (and impact) in our brains.

When we are able to catch these negative and limiting thoughts, observe th...

Every single day we have an opportunity. An opportunity to choose how we act, behave, speak and react to every situation we are faced with.

Let me ask you a question: What’s your default way of dealing with the hard or uncomfortable life experiences that come your way? 

Do you react unconsciously from the triggered, hurt or scared parts of your personality? Do you react negatively and either lash out at others or retreat and hide? Do you play the victim and immediately blame others? 

Or do use these daily life experiences to practice stepping into being a leader? Do you use these experiences as a way to practice observing yourself, recognising that you are triggered - but choosing to step up and into the parts of your personality that will help you rise above the situation. The parts of your personality that are wiser and more mature than your triggered parts. The parts of your personality that know that no matter what adversity you are facing - it is always better to face the sit...